My Journey of Transformation

The Overachiever’s Dilemma

Hi, I’m Dr. Karina Felix. I am a metaphysician, transformation coach, and empty nester.

For most of my life, I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery, deeply attuned to my intuition and seeking alignment with my higher self. But like many overachievers, I often found myself stuck in my head, disconnected from my inner wisdom. I worked too much, too hard, and in too many directions at once.

Change after change came at me so fast I didn’t have time to process or reflect on them. Every time I relocated, I had to build new businesses, make new friends, adjust to the new places, and fit in while ensuring my children had a smooth transition in the process. Every transformation required me to adapt, forcing me to reinvent myself over and over. I kept pushing forward without pausing to reflect, without taking a breath, without acknowledging the toll it was taking on me.

When the Body Speaks—And You Ignore It

Gradually, my body began signaling that something wasn’t right.  A burning sensation started in my legs, as if I were sitting on fire. I couldn’t sit for more than a few seconds before having to jump up. But the sensation wouldn’t go away. It spread through my entire body- I felt like a furnace.

One particular moment stands out: traveling home to Aruba with my children. It was the longest three-hour flight of my life. I had to sit in what felt like a fire pit the entire way. I brushed it off as a pulled hamstring, maybe inflammation—after all, I was used to working through discomfort. I played it down. I told myself it was nothing.

But it wasn’t nothing. It was the first whisper of what was coming.

Loss, Grief, and the Breaking Point

In 2024, I experienced a profound loss—the passing of two people dear to me: my father and my college roommate, my best friend. I was devastated. I had always been the person offering comfort to others, but now I had to figure out how to console myself.

Everything in my life ground to a halt. I lost interest in my work. I lost interest in socializing. I lost interest in taking care of myself. Sleep became erratic, eating felt like a chore, and my usually active mind was drowning in sadness. My life no longer felt like my own.

I stopped functioning as the go-getter, always-on-the-move, always-smiling person that everyone knew me to be. I barricaded myself inside my home, not leaving for weeks at a time. I avoided people. I numbed myself with mindless television because I couldn’t bear to process my emotions.

I didn’t recognize it as depression. Instead, I justified it in a thousand different ways—I told myself I needed the rest, that I was just overwhelmed, that I would bounce back soon. But my body knew the truth.

The burning sensations worsened. Stiffness crept into my lower back. I couldn’t twist my waist without sharp pain. Then, one morning, I woke up with shooting pain radiating from my upper back.

When Pain Becomes Unbearable

I went to the doctor. They sent me to physical therapy. I followed their instructions, hoping that stretching and light exercises would fix the issue. But instead of improving, the pain intensified.

One night, I found myself sitting on the floor, crying—not just from the pain but from the sheer frustration of it all. I couldn’t find a single comfortable position to sit, stand, or lie down. The pain consumed me. I couldn’t think straight. I could barely function.

That was when I finally took myself to Urgent Care.

They gave me a muscle relaxant and a pain injection, then sent me for an MRI. That was when I finally received my diagnosis—spondylosis: A degenerative disease that affects the spine, causing chronic pain, muscle spasms, and nerve compression.

I thought that was bad enough—until my body delivered another terrifying message.

A slight tingle started in my upper back. Then, sharp, shooting pain shot down my left arm to my fingers. I could feel the heat, the pain, and the scariest part—the numbness. One day, I realized I couldn’t tear a simple piece of paper. Something so effortless, something even a child could do—was now impossible for me. That was when I panicked.

A visit to my chiropractor confirmed what I feared. He was deeply concerned about my cervical spine. He explained that if I didn’t take action immediately, the pinched nerves in my spine could cause permanent atrophy in my arms. I could lose function entirely.

That was my wake-up call.

The Awakening

As a metaphysician, I understood that the body doesn’t act in isolation. Pain isn’t just physical—it’s emotional, energetic, and spiritual. Our bodies store emotions, and when we suppress them, they manifest as illness. Our body is energy, and when that energy is blocked, it disrupts our entire biofield—what most people know as chakras. 

Somewhere along the way, I had disconnected from my own energy flow. Healing wasn’t just about addressing my physical symptoms—I had to address the deeper misalignment within.

My pain wasn’t just about my spine. It was about all the grief, stress, and unresolved emotions I had been carrying for years.

Around this time, I received a book about loss and grief. While reading it, I had an epiphany – we only think about grief when it’s related to death. But every change in life is a form of loss —good or bad— Promotions, marriage, divorce, childbirth, financial stability or instability, empty-nesting, aging. We celebrate new beginnings but rarely take time to mourn the versions of ourselves we leave behind.

We hear phrases like “Leave the past behind”, but that’s not how transformation works. If we don’t acknowledge and process our past, we become trapped between who we were and who we are becoming – The Transformation.

Reclaiming Desire

In a conversation with a friend, something clicked: we didn’t lose our direction; we lost our desire. The goals and dreams we once had may no longer fit who we are today. But we hesitate to move forward because we haven’t realized that our desires have evolved.

I needed to take a step back and reflect. I wrote down all the changes I had gone through and realized I hadn’t properly grieved many of them. We assume life changes are “normal,” so we don’t acknowledge their impact. But unresolved emotions don’t just disappear—they stay with us, weighing us down like ghosts from the past.

That realization changed everything for me.

Creating a New Roadmap

My years of stress and emotional suppression had manifested in my body. My intellectual knowledge wasn’t connecting with my emotional and physical needs. As an overachiever, I had kept pushing forward—until my body finally forced me to stop.

I knew I had to take control of my healing. I had to create a system for myself—one that integrated my mind, body, and spirit.

That was when a phrase came to me: “The Way Life Unfolds.”  The first thing I wrote was: “Life unfolds with or without your permission.” The Universe gives us what we put out within the feeling energetic force. If your desires and actions don’t align, you manifest a lifestyle created from your unconscious mind, which may not be what you truly want. Thoughts are energy, and if not directed on the right path, they will stray. We need to create a clear vision so that our inner desires translate into outer manifestation.

I started writing, allowing myself to grieve, to feel, and to stop pretending that everything was fine.

That’s when I created “Unfolding Your Lifestyle with Peace and Ease—The Lifestyle Tranformation Workbook”, the companion to my upcoming book, “The Way Life Unfolds—In Pursuit of Mind Mastery and Lifestyle Transformation.”

Your Life, Your System

People talk about work-life balance, but why separate them? Life is one whole experience. Instead of letting life unfold randomly, you need a Lifestyle Transformation System—a personal roadmap to navigate life with intention. Every aspect of your life -business, personal, spiritual -should be accessed as one whole lifestyle experience.

Without a system, you’re at the mercy of external circumstances, drifting aimlessly. But with a Lifestyle Transformation System, you can steer through any storm and reach your destination with clarity, purpose and intention.

Are You Ready to Break Free?

If any part of my journey resonates with you—if you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or uncertain about your next steps—you don’t have to navigate this alone.

I invite you to schedule a Transformation Clarity Call with me. Together, we’ll uncover where you are, where you want to be, and create a roadmap for your transformation.